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I have been on my own personal journey for over 3 years now. This journey is my own. In writing this blog I do not seek to provide anyone with any truths. I know now that truths are fragile and can only be defined as your own. They are shape shifters. The only thing you can be in control of is an openness to this fact.

My aim in writing this blog is to give any person in my situation a better starting point for conversation. There are themes, themes that are often in parallel with many relationship difficulties. My aim is to provide some small comfort in a world when you are a minority. And you are a minority. Few men come out to their wives. The Transgender world is coming out, slowly but surely. Those who transition fully have been given oxygen and confidence by public figures like Caitlyn Jenner. Transvestite men who dress for performance are fully validated by numerous empowering performers. Men who express their transgender selves in private are silent, disempowered and generally hiding in cardboard boxes and hidden cupboards somewhere, completely unknown to their families and closest friends. Those of us who have been told, or who have found out by accident are a total minority. Some support systems aim to give you an answer. There is no answer. There is only every new day and how you negotiate how you feel and how you communicate. People you meet along the way, should you choose to tell them, will always feel they know which path you should take. They are merely incredulous as this will be the first time they have heard this news. You will be their first transgender wife. Your husband will be their first transgender friend. Hopefully they will still be his friend, however they may see their advocacy for leaving them as the truest sign of their friendship.

Nothing is easy. Nothing is ever easy......again..........